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Long, flat, gray clouds smother the near white sky. The ocean, with great effort, like a tired throat summoning the refuse of sinus and lung, coughs thick, shallow, brown water onto the sand.
Breastfeeding moms past and present, I need your help.
Despite my plan to wean when she turned one, and despite all commentary, both passive aggressive (mother-in-law, “Oh, she’s still nursing?”) and just plain aggressive (mother, “If you let her decide when to stop, she’ll be 15 for christ’s sake!”) from family, C is still nursing at 14 months. I am totally fine with this. During the day.
I decided that our goal will be to fully wean by 2 and to hopefully have nursings down to 2 a day (upon waking and before bed) by Christmas. Of course, now that I’m actually typing this, that seems so soon, but at least I’ll put the intention into motion. I do feel sad that she will eventually completely stop nursing, knowing it means ending one of my absolute favorite parts of motherhood thus far.
The problem is, everything I find on the internet about weaning is super attachment-focused, baby-centered, weaning-a-preschooler craziness. This is totally fine for some folks. I’m as crunchy as the next bitch by many standards, but the idea of nursing a school age child is beyond unappealing to me.
Right now, I’m ready to night wean this kid. I am beyond tired of waking up and nursing her at night. It has gotten a shit ton better than it was (as in, she’s only up 1-2 times a night on average now rather than up every 2 hours), but enough is enough. She nurses all damn day when I’m home, and when I’m not, she’ll drink most of a sippy cup of coconut milk.
My questions to you all:
1 - How do I night wean this kid? (fyi - she sleeps in her crib, in her own room)
2 - How do I start day weaning if she refuses the cup when I’m home and drinks less than 8 oz of coconut milk (she has no interest in cows’ milk) on daycare days?
Please past this post along or repost if you know of other moms on tumblr who might have advice to offer. I only follow a few people here and none of my real world pals are nursing any more.